There have been many times in my life when I’ve felt lonely. Sometimes it was because I felt I was in a situation that I couldn’t talk to others about, sometimes it was because I’d moved to a city where I didn’t know anyone or because being self-employed means a lot of time working alone.
I’m sure other self-employed/business owners can relate. Apart from when I’m running a class or doing a mentoring session with a client, I spend the rest of my time alone, working at my computer in my flat, the only person to discuss things with is myself (I do talk to myself a lot. At least when I was in London, I spoke to the cat. Not that he was particularly helpful! Lol!)
Over the last few weeks, I’ve attended groups with like-minded people to talk about ideas, challenges, goals, etc, which I find invaluable for someone who spends a lot of time working alone.
Sometimes we feel things are only happening to us, but when you talk to people you realise that’s so far from the truth.
This is true for personal life as well as business. I wish that in 2011 when I felt like crap, I felt able to open up to friends or family, using that human connection to speak about what I was going through and having someone to listen and be there for me. But I didn’t feel I could. I was in Madrid, so it was even easier to avoid opening up and I always found it hard to open up anyway.
I now see how important it has been for me to open up and talk about how I feel and release those emotions or beliefs that hold me down.
Next time you are feeling a bit shit and feel like you can’t talk to someone, remember your friends or family are more understanding than you think and possibly going through something similar. Or send me a message, I’m always here and happy to listen.