Don’t let fear decide your next steps

Woman staring. Photo by Marina Vitale on Unsplash
Photo by Marina Vitale on Unsplash

Fear isn’t something we should always seek to avoid.

Fear is normal and will come up again and again in our lives. How we react to it is what is important.

Last Friday I went to try on wedding dresses. As amazing as this experience was it did make the whole getting married thing really real.

And I’m not going to lie, I’ve been having moments of fear about getting married, about committing to that one person for the rest of my life. The thought that I won’t be able to flirt with intention, or go on dates, or sleep with other men, or experience the thrill of getting to know someone new.

I love my fiance and know I want to marry him and be with him. But it doesn’t mean fear doesn’t rear its head. Even has come up in my dreams.

But I get to choose how I react to this.

I could freak out and push him away emotionally, or not be nice to him, or worse, leave.

OR I can accept that fear is a natural part of moving on. A natural part of embarking on a new journey, a new phase of life. Recognise when it is showing up and choose how I behave.

Choose how I feel.

Fear tells me how I’m feeling deeper down. It gives me time to ask what is going on for me and work on that. If I feel it is becoming overwhelming I can EAM on it. Or sometimes just recognising it is there is enough to let it go. Or speaking to my fiance about it (apparently he isn’t having any jitters yet) and again that is enough to let it go.

Fear is natural and comes up a lot, especially when big change or events are coming.

Fear is ok. Fear is there to protect us. Fear is telling us something. It doesn’t have to be good or bad. We have the power to choose how to react to its message. 

Sometimes fear can give us the boost we need to take action, or stop us from doing something stupid.

Too many times we are told fear is bad as it is a negative emotion and on the bottom of the emotional scale but there is a big difference between experiencing it, learning from it and moving on from it, and dwelling in it and not allowing ourselves to move on.

I have seen lots of people who have dwelled in that fear, not recognising its power to stop them having the things they truly want. That is when it can cause problems. 

But when you are able to recognise it and work through it, it won’t have the same strangling affect. 

You have the choice. You can choose what you do next. 

If you find you are often paralysed by fear or maybe you don’t even know when it shows up for you, then my FREE 5 Days Have A Relationship You Love Experience is for you. A great way to start exploring what is going on internally that is affecting you and your relationships. 

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